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How to Turn Unrequited Love into Mutual Feelings?

Unrequited Love

Unrequited love makes a person miserable and sad. Feelings that cannot find feedback will reborn into a constant fight with yourself, a riddle between the desire to be with the person and to forget him or her. At some point in our life, we find it difficult either to love or to abandon these overwhelming thoughts. Do you think this topic is relatable?

How can we turn this feeling into something beautiful? Is it even possible to make your love interest fall for you?

I love you. I hate you. I like it. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’re a loser. I think you’re wonderful. I want to be with you. I don’t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love you…..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?

Shannon L. Alder’s quote about unrequited love describes such an ambiguous feeling better than any words of wisdom. To be truly honest, not all people live through those emotions in adult life. The exception is a well-known teenage reckless love. We all have been in this situation throughout the school years. Maybe, you had a university crush. Anyway, hardly any people recall love interests from the past.

If a person experiences unrequited love at a conscious age, there can be several reasons for this. To understand the true reason, you can only stop guarding your feeling and analyze them with your mind.

Reasons for Falling in Unrequited Love:

The first and the most common reason is when a person at a conscious age just likes feeling unrequited love as a source of self-justification. You may ask: who would prefer to suffer?

In fact, most people are a little masochistic, they adore involving themselves in the one-sided toxic commitment, being rejected and forgotten. Although the love objects may change throughout the years, the urge to tickle that nerve remains just the same. Many artistic creatures in the process of unrequited love feel a certain creative upsurge that is observed through suffering; they receive emotions that need to be spelled out in creativity.

Some people find this weird scheme as the remedy and substitute for real mutual relationships.

As Federico García Lorca said:

To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves.

Unrequited Love Quotes

“I hate when people say” You don’t need him,” because they are right I don’t need him, but I want him more than anything and that is infinitely worst.”

Unrequited love is the infinite curse of a lonely heart. And sometimes it’s not the butterflies that tell you-you are in love, it’s the pain.

Unrequited Love Quote

Sometimes, many things in life are meant to accept not to be accept understood..

Unrequited Love does not die; it’s only beaten down to a secret place where it hides, curled and wounded. — Elle Newmak

Unrequited Love

People change, feeling fade, things go wrong, memories remain but life goes on.

Indeed, it mainly happens to individuals, who are afraid of real love that comes from another person, but the urge to live through the spectrum of emotions never goes away.

Sometimes men and women are afraid of the commitment, having zero experience in dating. For them, unrequited love is the safest situation they can control and feel comfortable.

Many romantic people, helpless idealists, are prone to falling in love and even trying out relationships with a cold-hearted partner.  Together with soul trepidations (which, in fact, bring satisfaction and joy), those individuals romanticize not only the fact of the unrequited love but

also their ultimate crush. Idealistic people don’t require mutual love in reality – otherwise, the object may lose all the charm and the Prince or Princess themselves may appear usual humans with their disadvantages. In reality, love always turns out to be a little disappointing, as long as it doesn’t correspond to the imaginary image of a dreamer.

To be quite truthful, for some people, the model of unrequited love can be established on a psychological level. A person does not realize that one can love in another way because of the virtue of education or life circumstances. As a rule, the model of behavior starts in early childhood. A child may look at the parent who unrequitedly loved another person, and thinks that happy love is only mutual love. The other may think that this feeling of quiet, not burdening loving and suffering is the norm.

Cassandra Clare once said:

Unrequited love is a ridiculous state, and it makes those in it behave ridiculously. Indeed.

How to Overcome this Nasty, but Satisfying Feeling?

Somebody might say that winning another person’s heart is impossible and the best choice will be to calmly sit and wait until the feelings go away, or try to forget about this person. But how can you be sure about something you never acknowledged? This first experience must happen, for better or for the worth.

It is difficult to win someone over if you never talked before without a person knowing about your existence. So that’s why it is essential to becoming sound, but without doing stupid things or being clingy. It is important to enter your crush’s environment – let it be joining his or her group of friends or making a grandiose project together.

Collect as much information about your love interest as you can. It is nice to know about this person’s favorite music, books, and movies, something that can serve as a conversation-starter. Use the information to talk about your mutual hobbies without being fake and a tryhard. Switch to chatting about other topics and ask to spend time together. For example, you can go roller-skating, watch a movie or attend a cool concert.

Steal His or Her Heart

When you have the opportunity to spend some time alone, do not use it too often. Obtrusiveness can alienate a person, but it’s also not worthy to be too far off. Try to make sure that meetings with you are an important part of his or her life. Come up with original and interesting ways to spend time – go to Attractions Park or climb on the roofs at night together. It all depends on the interests of the person.

Try to add a little romance to your relationship. There is no need for direct seeking attention. However, some flirting will help speed up your relationship. A sincere and passionate look in the eyes, casual touches, a couple of compliments, lovely gifts without a special occasion, and intimate conversations.

Yes, Helen Keller was right when she said:

The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard but must be felt with the heart.

This unrequited love business was driving him crazy.
It was a feeling that took you over, mind, body, and soul. Worse than a drug that tore apart your flesh and spirit, and without which you simply could not live. — Mirella Muffarotto


Unrequited Love
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